as topic, will any brother do the samething as I do?

the reason I asked you guys because here is my story...

history:
17 yrs ago, I met her when I still dating my very first GF. She knew I'm good at picking up gals at that time and most of the gals in our school told her that to stay away from me... and at that time we never like each other...
but 2 yrs later, one time she asked for my help and I going out with her as a normalfriend (b4 that day I never thought I will in love with her) I have had fall in love with her and that is the beginning of me and her... however after 2 months of times goes by, when I knew I had to move to CANADA for studying, she told me not to see her again.

I KNEW SHE IS THE ONE and for past 15 yrs no one can replace her spot in my heart...

since that day she told me not to see her again and I have decided to spent past 15 yrs to try to hide from her (I knew I love her too much and I don't want to lost her again )

now:
when I thought I could get away from her, she show up again (Oct 26) and this time I almost completely lost my mind...

for past 10 days I did nothing but spend all my time with her either sending SMS/chatting on the phone.

I know I shouldn't seeing her since we both married, but... we are like getting back to the old time(15 yrs ago) like a teenager

Anyway, I am not asking for opinion, and please don't tell me what to do is right or wrong... I just need a place to say it out and try to give myself a break b4 I goes insane...

P.S. please tell me if you are me will you do the same thing as I do in past 15 yrs?

Thanks for reading it... Good day

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oh man...you are in trouble. if I were you right now, I will tell myself to think about the happy old days with
my wife instead of her. She is just a part of your history but your wife is the one who is writing the history with  you. take care.

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thx for the reply...

yup this is normally I would do if there are any gals try to come close to me, I will keep telling all the rest that I was married and I love my wife
however, this one is difference from normal gals, just difference u know...

thx for the reply

I know what kind of opinion will come up in such topics... and I don't want to start a war in being a good HUSBAND, being good ex-BF, or even worst take both

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well I a not ¦ºÄñÄꥴ§Î... just we both want to see each other now as a very best friend/ex-BF/ex-GF (whatever people want to call that)

more less my question is asking will you REALLY LOVE someone and let her go for 15 yrs and at the end you find out your story isn't really completely ended in that time.

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I guess this topic is a bit odd...   topic and the question is for the past 15 yrs part...
topic is really ¹L¥h¦¡ b4 Oct 26... and after Oct 26 it become present tense again

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thx for the reply

I know this is a question that shouldn't ask for opinion... I just want to share it with someone
well I would say ¨Æ·~ is more important then ·P±¡... if I can get promoted within few yrs I can take care both of them...
and if u have a good ¨Æ·~ then u can also have more time for modeling...


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hey, put it this way, you're good friends with her again and that's what's important.  i'm sure she's happy to have you as a friend and even though things didn't work out, history is history.  

as to whether i would "hide" from a person for 15 years?  sure.  even though you may believe she's the right one for you (or at least she might be the object of your desire at the moment), is the feeling reciprocal?  maybe she's happy with the way things turned out and if she's happy, then it's all good.

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I know this one could make your heart beat differently than other (even your wife). The thing is you are not going to leave your wife, are you?

So not sure about what kind of conversaton you are having with that lady lately. I think you can tell her your feeling and situation honestly and you want a
peaceful way out before hurting anyone. Maybe she will have an answer for you.

thx for the reply

seem many brother got me wrong... I am not ¦ºÄñÄꥴ... she is the one start the talk and letting me getting back into her life again...
well our love is as if the old days and seem like nothing changed at all...
"¹ï³o¬qµuµu¬J·P±¡µL§ë¤J¹L¦n¦h"... well if u judge our love by time (which I guess most ppl will do the same) but I don't think the relationship between me and that gal... it's like nothing normal at all...

MY LOVE - time isn't matter between us... we both love each other
MY WIFE - the one goes thought bad time with me... and I will never give up her

For most people, a guy with a wife and a lover isn't right at all (Me also agree with that b4 I met her again) but now I just don't want to give up anyone...
"Ëݭȱo¥h©ß±ó¡¨¨â®a¤H¡¨¦Ó¦¨¥þ¦Û¤v" - this will never happen.... both are important to me at this moment...  

thx for the reply...

my story is just too odd... cause nothing like the thing that u mention at all... the story for me and my wife it's just simple... from the very beginning we never act like a lover (just like married couple) nothing too excited at all...

I really donno how to define my relationship between these 2 women... just too odd for me...

thc for the reply

at this moment I knew we both regret what happen in the past... and also FACT is FACT!
we can't change it for sure, but now we want to make up the time that we missed...

thx for the song...

here are 2 of my beloved songs.... every time I listen to them I will remember her....

Aerosmith
Hole In My Soul

I'm down a one way street
With a one night stand
With a one track mind
Out in no man's land
The punishment sometimes
Don't seem to fit the crime

Yeah there's a hole in my soul
But one thing I've learned
For every love letter written
There's another one burned
So you tell me how it's gonna be this time

Is it over?
Is it over?
'Cause I'm blowin' out the flame

Take a walk outside your mind
Tell me how it feels to be
The one who turns
The knife inside of me

Take a look and you will find
There's nothing there, girl
Yeah I swear, I'm telling you, girl yeah 'cause

(Chorus)
There's a Hole In My Soul
That's been killing me forever
It's a place where a garden never grows
There's a Hole In My Soul
Yeah, I should have known better
'Cause your love's like a thorn without a rose
Yeah, yeah

I'm as dry as a seven year drought
I got dust for tears
Yeah I'm all tapped out
Sometimes I feel broken and can't get fixed

I know there's been all kinds of shoes
Underneath your bed
Now I sleep with my boots on
But you're still in my head
And something tells me this time
I'm down to my last licks

'Cause if it's over
Then it's over
And it's driving me insane

Take a walk outside your mind
Tell me how it feels to be
The one who turns
The knife inside of me
Take a look and you will find
There's nothing there, girl, yeah, I swear
I'm telling you girl yeah 'cause

(Chorus)

Yeah, is it over?
Yeah, it's over
And I'm blowing out the flame

Take a walk outside your mind
Tell me how it feels to be
The one who turns
The knife inside of me
Take a look and you will find
There's nothing there, girl, yeah, I swear
I'm telling you girl yeah 'cause

(Chorus)

Oh, oh...

(Good night taj...good night Chelsie!)

Aerosmith
I Don't Want To Miss A Thing

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing,
Watch you smile while you are sleeping,
While your far away and dreaming,
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender,
I could stay lost in this moment forever,
Every moment spent with you is a moment I treasure,

(Chorus)
I don't want to close my eyes, I don't want to fall asleep
Cause I miss you baby and I don't want to miss a thing,
Cause even when I dream of you, the sweetest dream will never do,
I still miss you baby and I don't want to miss a thing.

Lying close to you feeling your heart beating,
And I'm wondering what your dreaming,
Wondering if it's me your seeing,
And then I kiss your eyes and thank god we're together,
I just wanna stay with you in this moment forever, forever and forever

(Chorus)

I don't want to miss one smile,
I don't want to miss one kiss,
I just want to be with you right here with you,
Just like this, I just want to hold you close,
I'll feel your heart so close to mine,
And just stay here in this moment,
For all of the rest of time
Yea yea yea yea yeaaaaa

(Chorus) x2
Don't want to close my eyes, I don't want to fall asleep yea,
Don't want to miss a thing

thx for the reply...

well for most people it is...
I would say rather is not willing to step up when I was young... now I want to cover the lost and that's about it...

thx for the reply again...
I ain't going to leave my wife...

and she knew my story and she also don't want to hurt my wife as well (so am I)... we will both become "shadow" of the other and will look after each other and not affecting our normal life...

at least this is what we hope for...